These days, it feels like there's an app or AI tool for just about everything, except for filing for divorce. As much as we’d love to say "there's an app for that," when it comes to the dissolution of marriage, child custody, or any other family law issue, the only thing standing between you and closure is a human family law attorney (that’s us). It's our job to sort through the legalities, finalize everything, and offer that sweet sense of finality.
But okay, there are apps that can aid in the different phases of divorce. Still, these apps can’t do what actual lawyers can. In a divorce, there’s the mental, emotional, and sometimes downright chaotic side. And while we can handle the legal part, there’s a whole world of apps, tools, and divorce coaches who can help with the rest.
What is a divorce coach, and why might they be the MVP of your emotional recovery?
A divorce coach is essentially a life guide for someone going through a divorce. They’re not licensed to handle the legalities, but they can help you through the emotional, mental, and sometimes logistical hurdles that come with ending a marriage.
Not all divorce coaches are the same, however. Some focus on the emotional aspect, helping you manage feelings of anger, sadness, or anxiety. Others may assist in co-parenting strategies or offer help with re-entering the dating world post-divorce. If you’re staring at your phone thinking, “How do I even start telling my friends about this?” then a divorce coach might be the person you need to call.
Here’s how to distinguish whether you need a divorce coach or a divorce attorney.
To divorce or not to divorce: That is the question a divorce coach can help answer
Divorce coaches motivate you to get out of your emotional slump. If you’re already sure you want a divorce, a coach can help you emotionally prepare for the next steps. If you’re still on the fence (i.e., wrestling with whether you’re ready to call it quits or not), some divorce coaches specialize in helping you make that decision.
However, if you're looking for a clear legal roadmap (and not just a pep talk), a divorce lawyer can spell out your options, lay out what’s at stake, and help you make the smartest move.
For help pulling through, from tears to Tinder, call your coach
After a divorce, your emotional well-being isn’t just magically repaired with a few legal documents and a stiff drink. A divorce coach can step in with their toolkit of strategies for recovery. "Toolkit" here refers to learning modules, videos on dating and mental health, and one-on-one sessions.
A divorce coach can create a plan for you, whether that’s dealing with the loneliness of sleeping by yourself for the first time in years, starting a fitness regimen to feel better about yourself, or even just helping you set up a new dating profile. In other words, they’re your go-to guys if you need stern advice to stop checking on your ex's social media.
Re-entering the dating scene = divorce coach; court dates and custody battles = divorce lawyer
We’re pretty great at dividing assets and handling custody battles, but creating the perfect dating profile or advising on whether or not it’s too soon to date your yoga instructor? That's more in the wheelhouse of a divorce coach. They'll help you re-enter the dating scene like a pro.
They have you covered on dating tips. But as for the legalities of introducing your new significant other to your ex during custody exchanges? That’s what your attorney is for.
Read also: Divorce lawyers who are not us have some dating advice; we have some thoughts
Been there, done that: Why divorce coaches can relate
Many divorce coaches have lived through their own divorces, so they know exactly what you’re going through. They’ve got the scars to prove it. It's like having a personal trainer who actually knows how to lift a weight because they’ve done it themselves.
For the record, divorce coaches can offer advice that might be a little too "real-world" for your lawyer’s comfort. While you’re trying to figure out how to deal with a high-stakes custody battle or navigating complex legal motions, a divorce coach may be able to help you manage the stress.
That said, for the actual legal battles, you’ll still want to call your attorney. No one’s suggesting you rely on a coach to handle a restraining order (unless they’re also a lawyer).
Who’s got your back emotionally and legally — a divorce coach, a divorce attorney, or both?
If you want a divorce, you absolutely need a divorce lawyer. A divorce coach is more of a nice-to-have — they can’t file papers, represent you in court, or manage child custody agreements.
So, whether you need a divorce coach or a lawyer comes down to what you’re looking for. If you’re just trying to figure out how to stay sane during the process and recover emotionally, a coach is your go-to. But if you’re in the thick of it, navigating child support, alimony, or the custody of your beloved pet iguana, the lawyer has the expertise you need.
For your divorce and other family law needs in Washington State, LaGrandeur & Williams is here for you. Call us or leave us a message.